As to your question about purchasing off ebay, providing you buy a quality manufacturer RAM like Kingston, Crucial, etc... that always ha a lifetime warranty and the RAM sticks are not physically damaged, it should be a safe buy. If the RAM doesn't work then you could just send them in for a free replacement. It's not ideal but RAM is one of the safer items you could buy off of ebay for that simple reason, but verify the RAM you purchase could be returned under warranty is needed before buying it. If the price is too good to be true, then stay away from it. If I had to put RAM for sale then I'd find the average going rate and price mine there, maybe down a buck or two. I would not substantially undercut the price. And I don't know how much DDR3 Unbuffered ECC RAM you will find out there on ebay either, not much I'd think. And if you're stuck with a maximum of two sticks, I don't know if your MB supports up to 16GB but if it does, go for two 8GB sticks. The downside to ebay is if they are not compatible with your MB then you may be selling them on ebay yourself vice returning them for an exchange of something that does work.
Good luck!